Concerning the intercultural stumbling blocks, there is one aspect that impresses me most. That is about the high anxiety. In the passage Intercultural Communication Stumbling Blocks that written by LaRay M. Barna, she wrote that it is very common in cross-cultural experiences . When she mentioned the example on an international student , I found that my feeling is almost the same with her—we both try hard to understand every word other people say and are always worried that there may be some misunderstanding during our life with natives .
As for myself, although I don't have to take a rest because of the exhausted school daytime communication, I really make every effort to listen but sometimes it fails. When I can't understand what other people say , I will feel uneasy . Sometimes when people whom I talk to are laughing, what I can do is just smiling. In fact, I really feel embarrassed .
However, with myself gradually getting more used to the environment and feeling better, I begin to think more about this common emotion. I think compared to paying mych attention to the feeling itself, it is more important that how can I cope with this issue , or rather, how to make myself more comfortable. It makes more sense. From a perspective that most international students share, I believe the following ideas are able to provide some help to us.
The first thing we can do is to tell ourselves that we are not alone.we are in the same boat. It is obvious that when we face a new situation, we are likely to easily get anxiety, let alone we are in a quite unfamiliar environment . Therefore, what we can do is to constantly tell ourselves that it doesn't matter and everything will be better soon.
After we concentrate on being optimistic about the fact, the next step we can do is trying to find effective solutions.Firstly , we know that the time we feel anxiety, take a deep breath and try to cool down ourselves is a good way. Making the emotion peaceful is vital , for it affects the following steps that we try to ease, or at least reduce the uncomfortable feelings. So what can we do next? As far as I am concerned, we can turn to someone for help. Our kind and nice teachers, some institutions like psychological consulting center and our friendly foreign friends . they all ready to provide us with help. We can express our feelings and share our opinions with them.Representing the experience again and asking them what do they think if it happens to them. Through this way, we are able to learn more about cultural differences and some more suitable ways to deal with tdifficulties next time we face the similar situations.
At last, with our ability of speaking the foreign language becoming better, we can make ourselves understood more easily. Thus, when we worry that there are some misunderstandings in some situations , we can explain them immediately , instead of just letting them go. We are able to tell others we are friendly too, and we don't want to offend them or make them uncomfortable, we just don't know much about something and we are keeping up learning as much as we can. If we making efforts constantly, it is sure we can do better with time passing.
Therefore, I think, while we meet stumbling blocks next time , we don't need to feel too much anxiety because we have solutions. I believe that there must be more methods , but before exploring more, go forward and don't be afraid. The braver we are, the quicker we can grow up and adjust to the environment .
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